and still dealing with the changes that have come about in them. i shared it with everybody, and i had a lot of support from friends, and with the groups. it's been great. we also have groups for patients who recur. and that is the reality of cancer... that, for a certain percentage of patients, their disease will recur. cindy: i was very reluctant to go to any kind of a support group because i was one of the tough ones. but the thing that i liked, aside from all the jokes, was that if i did get to that scary place where i might cry, or i might demonstrate my vulnerability, somebody who's sitting next to me totally understood and wasn't going to say, "oh, you're going to be fine." if i hear that one more time, that's one time too many. "uh, yeah, thank you, that's great, but right now, i don't feel like that, and i want someone who understands i don't need to hear that." ann: i all of a sudden i started going for very long walks, and spending a lot of time trying to run away from this whole horrible, horrible thing. you tell yourself you're supposed to be tough.